I Am Not Your

By kolawole-solomon

Sep 20, 2023 | (126) Views

I Am Not Your

Finally, after secondary school, when I got my first phone, the chatting adventure began.

There was this guy in my class who liked me when we were in school and on getting my first phone, that became an opportunity for us to chat.

During our conversations, the word "dear" became so common and it didn't sit well with me. (Don't mind me, JJC things.

I could not take it again, so I told him, "Stop calling me dear. I am not your dear."

He found the statement funny and said he didn't find anything bad in the word. It was just a normal word to him but I didn't like him calling me that.

One day, the gate of hell almost got loosed when he called me "baby". I didn't know when I sent a voice note and said "Don't you ever call me your baby. I am not your baby!"

That was how the whole "dear" "baby" "babe" thing stopped and I was called by my name "Deborah".

This write-up is not to argue about whether calling your friend "dear" is bad or not but to emphasize the importance of setting boundaries.

Dear brotherly, learn to speak up when you are not comfortable with something while relating with sisters.

The lady might not find anything wrong in what she did or said but if it is going to affect you or lead you to sin, open up and let her know.

Dear Sisterly, never allow a brother to put you in a state of situationship. If he is interested in you, let him make his intentions known.

If there is something that does not sit well with you or is against what you believe in, speak up.

A lot of ladies have been trapped in toxic relationships/marriages because they could not speak but rather endured and kept things to themselves. They were been abused verbally and could not do anything about it.

That is why I usually emphasize the importance of establishing your own value/belief system (what you believe or stand for), so you won't be swayed away by people.

Words mean different things to different people. Many people might not see anything wrong with being called "dear", while many other people might find the word "dear" a special word for someone that they are in love with and should not be called that by just anyone.

Ladies are moved by what they HEAR and before you know it, they begin to create scenes and fantasize and it is possible the guys meant nothing.

I was not comfortable with being called "baby" by a guy who I was not in a relationship with, so I spoke up.

The word "baby" sounded like I was in a relationship with him and I was not. I had to clarify that.

People like to cheat or take advantage of those who do not know what they stand for.

People will throw their insecurities or force their beliefs on you if you do not know your values and set boundaries around them.

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